Goooooodddd Morning! And Happy Labor Day! I wanted to get this post out to all of you before going about your non-laboring bizzzzz. And Labor Day is for celebrating and honoring THE working people of our country. So, hopefully you get to celebrate and honor yourself with a day off of work. Today is going to be a beautiful day in the upstate, so hopefully you have some BIG plans to take full advantage of that. But before you get into that, you should totally come to CFEC this morning. We have a free class at 9:30. It’s a partner workout, so bring a friend. You can be out of there by 10:30, and on your way to big things and sunshine after.
Have you ever heard of the term “self fulfilling prophecy?” If you stayed away from psych or sociology classes in college then you probably don’t know what it is.
According to Wikipedia (where one can find the answer to anything I suppose), a self-fulfilling prophecy is “a prediction that directly or indirectly causes itself to become true, by the very terms of the prophecy itself, due to positive feedback between belief and behavior.”
Or, in normal people’s terms, it is an expectation about an event, or one’s self, that sets the stage for that expectation to come true. It is causing something to happen by believing it to happen.
With that said, your thoughts are important! The way you think about yourself and the obstacles, or tasks, or circumstances in front of you matter. What you think, visualize, or believe can easily become your actions because that is what your mind is focused on.
Negativity is the norm in our world. It’s all around us. It’s a lot easier and more natural to assume the worst, than it is to think of best case scenario. I wouldn’t say this is because we are negative people (well….some of us, I suppose), but because we are wired to be ready for anything – and being ready for anything sometimes means thinking about the negative aspects of our situation, or the worst case scenario.
So, with that, positivity needs to be practiced. As humans, we can live much better, happier, less stressful lives by assuming the best in other people. BUT now is the time to start assuming the best about ourselves as well.
You following me???
There are many cultural examples I can talk about in how this affects us personally, as well as how it can affect the way we view other people. But you didn’t come here for a sociology lesson. So, let’s talk about it in regards to personal health and fitness.
If you keep telling yourself you’re not good enough, you’ll actually start to believe it. And by labeling yourself in this kind of way automatically sets you up for failure before you even try.
For example, say you are trying to change up the way you’ve been eating (so, a new diet, I guess). However, you soon realize how hard it is, or maybe you don’t see the results you thought you would right away. (Ugghh… eye roll). SO, you quickly come up with allllll kinds of excuses as to why you “can’t” follow through with said new better way of eating. Maybe you tell yourself that it’s just your genetics. Or that eating healthy is just too hard for you. Or that it’s not worth it.
Then, next thing you know, you’re back in your old ways.
See…You did that to yourself because of your thoughts. No one else did that to you.
Another example… your performance in the gym. (and this is where I fall guilty from time to time – or a lot of the time). If you think you’re going to fail, or miss a lift, or not get that pullup, or quit in the middle of the workout on the rower, odds are, you will. Believe me… I’ve been there.
Simply put: Your mindset affects your results.
And only we can control our mind.
Now, I know life isn’t all about rainbows and unicorns. Your results rely on more than just your thoughts. Preparation, drive, and commitment have to be there, as well as a number of other things. However, your positive thoughts will steer you in the right direction, as opposed to dragging you down.
So, don’t put that negativity on yourself. If you haven’t figured this out already, only you can control your mind….not anyone else’s thoughts or words about you.
What you tell yourself about your abilities, commitment, and character matters.
So, be nice to yourself. Try assuming the best this week… and not just in other people…but in yourself as well. If you are trying to cut something out of your diet in order to better your health, keep telling yourself that you can follow through. If you don’t think you’re worth it to wake up and get that workout in at 6 am (because that’s the only time you can go with your busy schedule), try believing that you ARE worth it, and get your butt up, and get your day started off well. When you’re in the middle of a workout in the gym, and you approach a barbell that is wayyyyy heavier than you would like for it to be, be confident, see yourself succeeding (and really believe it), and see what happens.
Have a great week!!! 🙂